just saying that if someone requested to follow me on twitter and i: a) didn't know who they were, and b) had never spoken to them before in my life, i would not accept or follow back. think about how creepy it is if it happened to you.
it... has happened to me? so i said hi, asked how they found me and if there was any particular reason for adding me, and if things seemed chill, then i followed back? if i was creeped out after talking to them, then i would just say bye and never start another conversation with them again lol
lmao anon, i'm glad it worked out for you! but just personally if that had happened, i wouldn't do anything. it's good you were able to get a friendship out of it though!
yeah. also i get that people want to be friends with other people, and ideally they should be given a chance bc who knows maybe you'll really get a long!, but maybe the other person is really busy or who knows :/ this isn't directed at the twitter anon at all, just in general. it's rude if a bnf rejects you in a snooty way, but at the same time no one's obligated to take the time to make friends with everyone. ~it's a two-way street~
this is in general, too. i've just seen this raised a few times over the meme ("i want to be friends with Person A!" "you should just follow them on twitter!") and this is my personal reaction. i don't think it's really snooty, because it's not like they're actively bitching about it or anything, they're just choosing not to act.
yeah i don't think not responding is snooty unless you directly @'d them or something, i meant if they blatantly acted like ~too good for you. but i see anons saying stuff like "they're a bitch/you're 1000x better without them anyway" and i get that's to be comforting but also... the other person really isn't obligated to be your friend just because you want them to be!!!
yeah that's exactly how i feel. or if they said they welcomed all new friends and THEN rejected that person? half the time, i feel that anons don't know the person any way and are just saying things, plus they don't know the reason the original person chose not to accept the follow.
it's such a bullshit concept that just because someone wants to be friends that you have to be /annoyed
i mean, it's not like you're obligated to add anybody and it's your safe space but to say it's "creepy" seems pretty over-dramatic to me. maybe you have mutual friends or they just found your twitter somehow and felt like following you.
maybe creepy was the wrong word to choose, sorry if it struck a cord in you, anon. that is possible but for that to happen, i get the image of them trawling through our mutual friend's twitter and obsessively following tweets, trying to track down people to friend? that's an exaggeration ofc, but i'm probably just paranoid in that respect and that's why i feel like that.
you shouldn't think that way, anon. they probably just thought you were cool based on convos they saw you having with their friends and decided to add you. again, not that you have to let them follow you, but i would hate to think that somebody sees me as a big creeper who has been stalking around just because i sent them a follow request.
idk, that's how unprecedented follow requests seem to me? unless our mutual friend goes, "oh hey! i have this friend who thinks you're really cool and i think you guys would get along!" like that's happened before and i've done that before and that's been fine, but with no warning at all it seems just... strange.
i think it's different if your account is unlocked? mine is locked, so i get creeped out when i get follow requests since i don't publish my twitter anywhere
twitter anon here and ah ig because it's a fandom account and some anons also talked about following her before and got to be friends easily so I'm pretty pressed that I wasn't accepted? i'm just used to easily making friends with fandom accounts so yeah.
i didn't mean it as a personal attack, anon, just that this is how i'd react in that situation. that person might've changed their views on friending people they don't know? or if you have a mutual friend who can introduce you, that's always a good way to make friends with new people. idk what you can do in your situation if you've always easily made friends with fandom accounts - (i really do not mean this harshly) but maybe take it as a lesson that not all people in fandom are that open?
we have a few common friends but it's been months since i requested to follow her and it'd be awkward now. also if it says anything, i know some people that requested a follow a while ago and they got accepted. i'm a nugu so i know she doesn't have anything against me or something of that sort so i can't really think of any reasons to put me in her pending list lol
maybe they've spoken to her outside of twitter before? or maybe it's because you're nugu and that she doesn't know anything about you that she's still hesitant to req her? idk her reasons for not accepting you but if she's accepted others, then i'm sure she'd have some and you could always ask some mutual friends to tentatively ask her them.
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(Anonymous) 2012-11-18 05:54 am (UTC)(link)it's such a bullshit concept that just because someone wants to be friends that you have to be /annoyed
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