exactly

i disagree with the vitrolic tumblr discourse that shames asexuals (i agree that heteromantic asexuals don't deal with the same shit queer asexuals do but also i don't ever see anyone talking about queer asexuals and that's a problem right there) and the whole sex-positivity moment (which has been co opted by leftist dudes using it as a way to pressure women into having sex with them) and demisexuals are definitely co opting something that's not really theirs