unless they know what they're talking about and don't try to speak for the experiences of people of color, i'm cool. what i hate is when i try to talk about race and how awkward i feel as an poc in a group of white people, and they try to convince me to not feel that way because ~color doesn't matter~ and i should stop thinking like that because it's a "negative mindset", and they've never felt that way so why do i????? /rage